Building Rapport By Showing Women Vulnerability
Most of the time, you can’t go from attracting a woman to seducing her. To bridge this gap, you have to qualify and build rapport. During this stage, you’re establishing a firm connection. You’re letting a woman fill in the gaps in your life and developing a bond that helps her feel like there’s something special between the two of you.
There are many things you can do during the rapport stage. You can tell stories, ask background questions and reveal interesting quarks about your personality. The primary focus of this stage is to show the best side of YOU that a woman will want to see.
Now there’s one big problem I see guys make during in this stage. They think it’s the time to start bragging about their life. Seriously, I’ve seen some men talk to a woman AFTER attraction is built and waste this opportunity by mentioning their fancy job or the cool car they drive.
The point of rapport is simple. During this time, you’re trying to establish a connection. When you know she’s attracted, you don’t have to worry about impressing her anymore. Instead, you should focus on providing cool details about your life.
When I first started out, I had some major problems with rapport. I could build attraction, but I found it hard to “turn off the routines” and act like a normal person. One technique that helped me develop my game was revealing a VULNERABLE side of my personality.
Typically, guys within “the community” know all about acting like an alpha male and demonstrating high status. But when it comes time to show the “real side” of their personality, they find it hard to make this transition. And even worse is the guy who thinks rapport is the time to get all weepy about how he’s been rejected by women his whole life.
Rapport is a wonderful time to be a little vulnerable. BUT, you should never get too in-depth about things that aren’t naturally attractive to women. In other words, being vulnerable does NOT mean you should start talking about your passion for Dungeons and Dragons.
There are some vulnerable qualities that can reveal a deep side of your personality, without making you seem weird or geeky. Here are some of the things I recommend:
• Talking about funny mishaps in your life (nothing too bad)
• Describing a touching event you recently witnessed (Animal, kids, old people)
• Telling a cute childhood story
• Mentioning a funny sexual story (Nothing too perverted)
• Telling a secret about you that not many people know
• How some tragic in your life affected you on a personal level
• Talking about your dreams and what they mean to you
Vulnerability is a great during rapport. Furthermore, it’s a time when you can relax a little and not focus on canned material and routines. Being vulnerable shows a woman that you’re a real person. Not just a dude that can crack a few jokes and demonstrate a few cool things. Done correctly, it can bring out the great side of your personality in a fun and interesting manner.
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